There have been a couple of things I’ve learnt over my time in dealing with body confidence. Being thrusted onto national TV/magazines on a weekly basis, wearing nothing but a swimsuit forced me to deal with a few body issues quite early in life.
I wouldn’t say I’m blessed with long legs or a slim build which would made it easy to keep weight off. What I am genetically passed on with, is a body that’s strong and agile with a capacity to help me meet my dreams. In a sense we all have the capability to work WITH our bodies – to reduce our waistlines through a fitness program, stop drinking and/or smoking through mindfulness techniques or plan healthier meals at home (and stop buying junk) with strategies. So what stops us and stands in the way of getting our best body yet?
It can get so damn easy to get caught up in comparing yourself to others. Whether your male or female – it’s the most common trait I come across with my health coaching. Unfortunately this is where most problems stem from – chicken or the egg kinda stuff – if we are not appreciating our bodies, then how the heck are we supposed to nourish ourselves with nutritious foods, taking the time to connect with our bodies via movement or creating healthy habits? Moving forward and getting on with embracing what you have is the key. Stop analysing and create that first step. Learn to love your body and appreciate that everything you eat, drink – do or don’t do, reflects your mindset and long term goals.
Remember the times when you’re in a self-defeatist mood or phase of your life and you carry a “Who cares if I chocolate” sort of mentality? When you have this attitude, it’s really (like really), easy to forget to care for yourself. Self sabotage takes over and bad habits slip in and form a ‘normal’ way of being. I see people stay in these patterns for years, not knowing how to escape or actually believe change is possible.
What do you see when you look in the mirror? Is it all negative? Try and reframe this and find some positives. Stop making it harder than it should already be to get YOUR best body. Positivity breeds positivity. Do what you can to get on top of these thoughts to create flow and it all begins with your mind.. not what happens in the gym or what’s on your plate.
5 Must Do’s To Get YOUR Best Body Yet
1. Change your inner dialogue
We all have beliefs about ourselves, that don’t necessarily mean that they are true. Become aware of the labels or stereotyping that is going on from your own inner dialogue. This can be paralysing and super hard to move forward from.
“I’m not an exerciser” Seriously who says? You? That’s a good enough reason to get out there and give it a crack. “I am someone who feels great after exercise” is an example on how to rephrase.
“I can’t stop craving sweet things after dinner” As you can see you’re already telling yourself you can’t, so perhaps lets rephrase that into “I feel really full after a balanced dinner and don’t feel the need to crave sweets after dinner”.
See where I’m heading with this? Catch your negative chatter, write it down and rephrase it into a positive.
2. Stop comparing
As I mentioned above your body is yours and you need to own it. You can’t control what other people do with their bodies – you can only find what is unique and works for you. Comparisons will only bring you down and leave you disheartened. It’s time to bring out your best, and my Naked Habits Ebook is designed to help you do this.
3. Consider your future self
It’s so easy to get caught up in a moment and lose sight of the bigger picture. Learn to control your emotions and stay within the realms of what’s best for you. Acting out of impulse can lead to big regrets down the line. I always think of the kids on the ABC series , Life at 3 and the marshmallow test , but the good news is can develop self-control at any age.
Psychologist Dr. Walter Mischel goes on to say
“You can turn something that’s very appealing into something that’s very aversive,” said Mischel. He used the example of how to quit smoking because as a young man, his insatiable appetite for nicotine led to a three-pack-a-day habit augmented with a pipe and even an occasional cigar.
“If you’re a smoker and as you approach the cigarette you’re thinking lung cancer … and imagining it very vividly, your picture of your lung with a black spot and your physician telling you ‘I’m so sorry to have to tell you etc.’ that visualization can be very powerful,” said Mischel.
4. Find your support crew
If you are willing to change then it might be time to change your surroundings. Find people on the same frequencies as you (hello, glad you here) that will give you positive feedback and support. Become aware of this paradigm shift and what may come from friends that are not accepting of your desire to change. “People don’t resist change, people resist being changed” rings true!
5. Consider yourself as ‘one’
You are what you think, feel, do, say, dream, see… See yourself as whole and learn to connect to your body than viewing everything segmented.
Gaining your best body is about constantly being connected to your body and working with intention. Give yourself a purpose and results will be sure to follow! x