I often have days when the girls are pushing all my buttons. I can wake up relaxed and then BAM! before you know it, I have lost my cool over something the girls are doing and my shoulders up are near my ears.
It used to be easy to block out other people’s attitudes and moods but when it comes to your own family it is a bit different – that invisible thread lingers.
Families were invented to teach us unconditional love.
It doesn’t matter what they look like or what they give us, we learn to appreciate them for who they are and accept their shortcomings.
I found this little paragraph in a book I was reading to one of my girls. The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams used to be a favourite book when I was little so I am enjoying reading it again. When the skin horse is trying to describe to the rabbit (both are toys) what it is like to feel unconditional love this is what he said.
” Real isn’t how you are made. It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become REAL…it doesn’t happen all at once. You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or have to be carefully kept. Generally, byt the time you are REAL, most of you hair has been loved off and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are REAL you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand”
As I have grown older I now see a different perspective on this paragraph.
Do you remember this book? Do you have a fave childhood book that shares a lesson on life?